After some serious discussions with my starting players on Team Vagina, I've come up with my personal hierarchy of communication. It goes a little something like this:
1) In person, preferably over food and vino
3) Text Message
I don't Skype, so I'm not sure where that might fit it....the thought of having people see me on the telephone is my nightmare. You wouldn't believe the shit I'm doing when I'm talking to you; it's best left unsaid.
In analysing the list, I've had the following realizations. My job combined with my penchant to be an reclusive weirdo can make option 1 a challenge. And I as I deplore option 2, I am constantly jamming as much of options 3-5 into my life as I can stand. This has left me feeling unsatisfied, like when you eat a Clif bar when you really need a steak dinner. Even when carefully chosen, the intention of the written word can often be lost or misconstrued....this fact combined with the lack of real time feedback from your audience, options 3 -5 tend to just barely fill the void in the quest for human connection. Of course if you just have tons of options 3-5 going on, then you don't really have time for options 1 or 2, or time to think about what you're missing. I witness a lot of this phenomenon. Over the last year I've had a good string of relationships that barely took place in reality. My phone has processed declarations of love, naked photos, requests for naked photos, tearful confessions, mind blowing poetry, expletive filled frustrations, all mixed in with regular every day information from a million directions. The technology which claims to bring us all together instantly seems to be creating a lack of real intimacy....I often catch myself living in text/email/FB land when in the presence of living, breathing people with feelings, which really is disrespectful to everyone involved. I'm convinced my "smart" phone has made me a lot dumber in a lot of ways. As someone who conducts a ton of long distance relationships, I'm on a mission to make them better by changing the way I communicate....preferably having most of my dealings in person, then the phone, and on down the list.
Will I post this on Facebook, my least loved method of communicating? Probably. Rome wasn't built in a day.